The Boulevard Seventh-day Adventist Church in Philadelphia identified the year 2013 has the “Year of the Family.” Their stated objective for the year is to learn, grow and fellowship together. I accepted an invitation to present on April 19 on the topic of “Parenting College Students.” The central theme of the evening’s presentation was that Christian education begins at home. Ellen White in the book, Adventist Home, states that: “In His wisdom, the Lord has decreed that the family shall be the greatest of all educational agencies. It is in the home that the education of the child is to begin. Here is the first school. Here, with his parents as instructors, he is to learn the lessons that are to guide him throughout life – Lessons of: respect, obedience, and self-control.” Another source recommends that parents of adolescents must provide both stated and unstated messages that say, “I value you,” “you can think,” and “you have control.” A key message to parents is to model the desired behavior to our children. Model your own healthy self-concept to your teen by taking care of yourself as much as you take care of them. The concept is that responsibility is caught, not taught. Unconditional love must be demonstrated at all times. Lectures and treats are not the best methods of parenting. Interacting with teens as if they are adults convey a strong message that we expect them to act as responsible adults and own their problems and their solutions.
A goal of the University is to connect with churches throughout the Columbia Union and to respond to invitations to provide teaching and learning opportunities for spiritual and intellectual growth.
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Madge Quesenberry, LGPC
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